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Katie: Hi there, and welcome to the 400th episode of the Wellness Mama Podcast. I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com and wellnesse.com. That’s wellnesse with an E on the tip, it’s my new line of private care merchandise, together with hair care and toothpaste. You may test it out at wellnesse.com.

And earlier than I leap into this episode, I simply need to say, thanks a lot for being right here, and for listening, and for being a part of the Wellness Mama group. I don’t take it flippantly how unimaginable this group is. And I’m simply so grateful to all of you for being right here and for being a part of it. I say typically on this podcast, that I’m so grateful for you for sharing your most precious useful resource, your time, with me. And that, particularly, holds true once I get to mirror on these previous 400 episodes. I do imagine that point is our most precious useful resource, adopted intently by our vitality. And I’m simply so honored and grateful that you’d share yours with me and with my visitors over these previous 5 years.

This episode is slightly bit completely different. It’s not strictly about well being in a bodily sense, though many of those factors may have some actually essential implications in well being. And I’ll give examples of ways in which I’ve utilized a few of these concepts to well being and what the result was like for me. However on this episode, I’m sharing my psychological fashions and a few of my processes by which I make selections. This has been an essential a part of simplifying my life and lowering my stress. And these are literally very concrete issues that I do in making selections, or in working my enterprise, even working my dwelling. I’ve talked slightly bit in passing about a few of these concepts earlier than. I received’t discuss it once more in the present day, however as an illustration, how I take advantage of the 80-20 precept in lots of areas of life, to be extra environment friendly and simpler. And I’m going deeper on another psychological fashions and guidelines that I take advantage of in different features of my life in the present day.

Using psychological fashions is a typical theme amongst excessive achievers. And I believe, truly, these will be particularly useful for mothers, as a result of we deal with a lot and we’re always making selections. However but most details about psychological fashions and utilizing them, is extra geared towards scientific disciplines or to the enterprise world. So on this episode, I’m going to try to stroll by way of how I’ve actually made these techniques relevant to each day sensible life. And naturally, there are implications in enterprise, and in well being, and in science, definitely, as properly. However I believe we are able to actually profit from utilizing these in a sensible day after day method.

I’ll point out a whole lot of sources and books, and people will all be linked, after all, as at all times, within the present notes at wellnessmama.fm. So that you guys can examine these on the market to proceed studying. These will simply be excessive degree overviews. You probably have questions, please depart these within the present notes at wellnessmama.fm, and I’ll do my finest to reply them, and presumably do a observe up episode with extra element, if it’s useful.

However in brief, these are frameworks that simplify my resolution making and, I discover, cut back stress as a result of I don’t should reinvent the wheel. There are actually hundreds of forms of psychological fashions. And I’m simply going to undergo some that I discover useful in the present day, together with a few of my interior guidelines for all times which have simplified my life. That is in no way an exhaustive record. I’m simply going by way of a few of the excessive degree ones which have had the largest affect, and that I’m consciously making an attempt to move on to my kids, and that I typically discuss. A few of these will sound acquainted, if you happen to’ve listened for some time, as a result of I point out these in passing typically. However to get extra granular, I’m going to undergo them one after the other.

So primary rule for all times is to query all the things. There’s a quote that certainty is the enemy of progress. And I’d say curiosity is its gas. So the concept behind that is that it’s essential to ask questions always, particularly about issues that we assume or imagine with certainty, to be true. That is additionally a really tough factor to do. It’s a simple factor to grasp we should always do, and a tough factor to truly implement. I’ve talked about “The 4 Agreements” fairly a bit. And that’s, I imagine, probably the most really useful e-book on this podcast. And as they point out it early in “The 4 Agreements,” we’re conditioned as children to… Or he calls it domesticated, to stay by a algorithm and beliefs that now we have not chosen for ourselves. And infrequently, I discover, as adults, we don’t essentially return and query these issues. We’re so habituated to those beliefs that we function on the idea of them, for our complete life, with out ever going again and questioning. And so that is one thing I’ve needed to consciously find time for and do as an grownup, is to return and query all the things. And I’ll sort of stroll by way of a few of the methods to do that.

Anyone who has children, you’ve seen this in motion. The truth is, all of these items, these guidelines for all times and first rules, children are naturally higher at, and I’ll clarify as we go. However in terms of questioning, we are able to be taught from children at all times asking why, after which why once more, after which why once more. I imagine it’s useful, or at the very least has been for me, to always query issues like motivations, beliefs, filters, actions, particularly in your self. I discover it a lot much less useful to query different folks’s motives, or beliefs, or filters, as a result of we don’t have the flexibility to have an effect on these instantly, essentially, which I’ll discuss slightly bit in a while. However to ensure that us to have the ability to change, now we have to be open to the concept of being fallacious. And so a part of doing that’s questioning, again and again, to seek out out if we had been truly right to start with. Aristotle stated that, “It’s the mark of an informed thoughts to have the ability to entertain a thought with out accepting it.” And this can be a considerably misplaced artwork, particularly in in the present day’s world.

So in terms of questioning all the things, there’s a easy framework you possibly can observe. And I’ll stroll by way of some examples of this in only a minute. However beginning with the concept of regardless of the factor is you’re questioning, is that this truly true? From there, constructing on, if that is true, what’s gained by performing in response to this concept or info? And if that is true, what might be misplaced by not performing in accordance with it? Once more, this can be a greater degree factor, however many people by no means get to the purpose of with the ability to ask these questions. I believe it’s a very essential idea to show to children too. And it’s one which sadly, I believe, as a mother or father, it’s simple to not just do out of sheer fatigue. Youngsters naturally ask questions. They usually ask increasingly more and extra questions, making an attempt to truly perceive the character of an issue. And fairly often, we’ll finally default to, as a result of I stated so, as a result of both we don’t know the reply, or we’ve merely fatigued from answering so many questions.

So, a part of this with children is to only merely not prepare out this inherent trait they have already got, but in addition on the flip facet, to not reply all the things for them. So quite than simply at all times give them the data, turning it round and asking them, “Nicely, why do you assume?” Or, “How may you discover out what the reply to that query is perhaps?” As a mother or father, like I stated, it’s simple to fatigue while you get a whole lot of questions. And in order that’s one thing to observe and to protect in opposition to. However I typically discover… I’ve seen as myself as properly, we are able to, with our youngsters, or particularly with friends, take questions as virtually challenges, particularly in the event that they’re concerning one thing associated to a perception. So, studying to step away from the ego facet of a perception and being prepared to be challenged on these, lets us look at them extra deeply.

Again to the concept from Aristotle, that it’s the mark of an informed thoughts to have the ability to entertain a thought with out accepting it. If we had the flexibility to do this, we don’t should be afraid of entertaining a thought that we could or could not agree with. With children, I inform mine typically to query all the things. And I bear in mind my oldest son, at one level when he was little, asking me, “Even you? Can I query you?” And I him, “Even, and particularly me. You shouldn’t imagine something at face worth simply because somebody tells you it. Even when it’s somebody you belief. It’s best to nonetheless at all times consider it, analysis it, and ensure it’s true.” And extra on this in a few my future factors as properly. However for youths, this has been one thing I’ve actually tried to domesticate in mine. And it appears to have, particularly my older ones, I’m seeing the outcomes of them sustaining that inherent curiosity.

As adults, if we didn’t essentially have that as our framework rising up, I discover… I had a whole lot of areas the place I may query. And I needed to discover and acknowledge affirmation bias or areas the place I used to be simply looking for affirmation of issues I already believed, versus being prepared to truly query issues.

I discovered, typically, these are areas the place we are inclined to really feel defensive. So it’s a tough factor to face, but when there’s areas when somebody questions us, or even when we attempt to query ourselves, we really feel uncomfortable and defensive. That’s a terrific place to truly begin delving in and determining why that discomfort is there. And that always will be illustrated that we don’t both totally perceive or aren’t prepared to look into the questions associated to that space. I believe one other a part of that is exposing ourselves to many various viewpoints, in order that we always have the flexibility to query ourselves and have assist in doing that. And that is truly slightly bit associated to this podcast and a subject I wished to verify I touched on briefly on this episode.

One among my targets with this podcast is to have visitors on with a variety of concepts, and techniques, and viewpoints, and to listen to and be taught from all of them. I firmly imagine we are able to be taught one thing from each occasion, each interplay, each useful resource. And I’m going to speak extra in depth about that towards the tip of the episode. However I believe it’s essential to be uncovered to a variety of concepts. And I’ve been doing that in all probability much more so not too long ago on this podcast. And I’ve had a couple of visitors particularly, which have had concepts that didn’t usually line up with in all probability nearly all of different visitors on completely different well being associated matters. And a few of you guys have introduced this up within the feedback, and I’m actually grateful for that, have introduced up the concept of, you recognize, this visitor has one thing that was in battle with a earlier visitor. Why didn’t you problem them extra or why didn’t you say which one is definitely true?

And there are a number of causes for this. However the first being, like I stated, I believe it’s essential to be uncovered to a variety of viewpoints, and contemplate that there’s validity in at the very least some or the entire concepts that this particular person might be saying. Secondly, I’ve talked about many instances now that my lesson over the past couple of years has been simply how drastically essential individuality and personalization is. And the explanation I’ve visitors on now with differing viewpoints is that folks have huge variations in what finally goes to work finest for them. So I need to have a variety of viewpoints obtainable so that you simply guys, as listeners, can hear a variety of them, after which be capable to pull and be taught for your self, what works finest for you.

I firmly imagine, on the finish of the day, that we’re every our personal main well being care supplier, which implies that nobody system, together with mine, once more, query, everybody, even and particularly me, goes to work instantly for anybody else, phrase for phrase. So we’re liable for studying, educating, testing, and discovering the issues which might be going to work finest for us. They usually’re going to be completely different for every of us. In order that’s why I attempt to have visitors on with a variety of viewpoints, and never attempt to persuade them or conform them to what has labored for me, as a result of that’s simply my viewpoint. I additionally use this podcast equally, as a technique to problem my very own assumptions, and beliefs, and to query issues. So typically, I’m not arguing or being dogmatic again with a visitor, as a result of I’m making an attempt to remain in a curiosity and studying mindset as properly, throughout the episode. However that stated, the suggestions is properly taken. And I believe I’ll make an effort sooner or later to at the very least carry up different viewpoints which have been introduced by different visitors, and let any new visitor have an opportunity to reply and problem that again. So I believe that’ll result in a extra fascinating dialog and I’m actually grateful that you simply guys introduced that up. It’s simply my encouragement to hear and be taught from a perspective of staying curious, and being prepared to query our personal affirmation biases, at any time when potential.

And once I say query all the things, I believe that is the factor that always will get considered in a broad generality, perhaps. And once I say this, I imply I truly do that yearly, and concretely, and really, very deliberately, to the purpose of truly making a spreadsheet. And I’m not suggesting that that is, by any means, useful for everybody, however that is what works properly for my actually analytical thoughts. I’ll make, yearly, on the finish of the 12 months, I’m within the means of doing this now, a listing of issues I imagine to be true, or I’m comparatively sure, in all probability are true. After which I query these issues, truly make an effort to reveal myself to issues that instantly supply different viewpoints. I’ll discuss once more, this, in slightly bit extra depth and at a special level as properly. However this can be a very concrete observe that I do. So I attempt to do it mentally, each day, particularly anytime I discover myself feeling defensive or dogmatic about one thing. However I definitely do it yearly, very deliberately.

And I what I discovered by way of this, like I stated at first, the concept that certainty is the enemy of progress. And I believe curiosity is the gas of progress. And paradoxically, I really feel just like the extra we strive to make sure about one thing and ensure our personal viewpoint, the much less safe we truly really feel about it. And I may give some examples of that, however they’re considerably controversial. And I’m positive that you could in all probability put these items collectively your self. However I additionally discover that the extra comfy we get with questioning one thing, and never being sure, the extra comfy we truly are in mixture as a result of there’s a consolation in not having to make sure. So I discover this observe of continually questioning and simply asking, what if this was not true, what if the other was true, what if there was different viewpoints right here that I wasn’t contemplating, results in a whole lot of freedom.

And in terms of questions, one other space that I believe is perhaps not talked about sufficient, and equally essential, is the interior questions that we ask ourselves. As a result of our unconscious does a whole lot of work to reply these questions, and that goes an extended technique to creating our inside bias or our inside filters that largely affect how we act and the way we work together. And so, as an illustration, I’ve used this instance earlier than, however once I used to inner-question requested myself, why can’t I shed extra pounds? My unconscious did its job brilliantly of answering that query by saying, “Nicely, clearly, it’s since you’ve had all these children, and you’ve got thyroid issues, and your genes say that you’re extra prone to be obese. And, and, and, and, and.” And so I by no means made progress as a result of I used to be asking the fallacious query.

So I discover even internally, it’s essential to rephrase our inquiries to query our assumptions and beliefs. Issues like, properly, is it truly true that these folks with thyroid illness can’t shed extra pounds? Nicely, no, not essentially. Is it true that every one mothers have to realize weight after having kids? Nicely, no, not essentially. So breaking these issues down, which I’ll speak slightly bit extra about within the subsequent level on first rules. However rephrasing the questions we ask ourselves internally. So perhaps issues extra like, how is it so enjoyable to get to some extent of being metabolically wholesome? Or, how do I like motion a lot? Or, why is it so enjoyable to decide on wholesome choices of meals? Or, how am I so in tune with precisely what my physique wants? After which my unconscious hung out figuring these issues out and answering these questions.

Somewhat bit associated, and I really feel prefer it’s price at the very least lumping in right here is, each internally and in interactions with others, being very cautious of our phrasing of questions in ways in which result in options and never simply extra questions. So, as an illustration, when working with somebody, as an alternative of asking if one thing is feasible, ask how we may make it occur? Or, how would we make this work? Or, how can we get to this desired purpose? Similar factor internally. So not asking, like, why can’t I shed extra pounds? Or, if I can shed extra pounds? It’s asking, how can I do that so simply? After which letting the mind work towards these options. On a sensible degree, I discover this actually useful in enterprise and in working with any sort of contractor and even folks regionally, is as an alternative of asking in the event that they’re okay with one thing, determine what the specified resolution is for you, and ask tips on how to get there, after which put the ball of their court docket to assist resolve the issue.

So, on the finish of the day, I began with this one as a result of I believe the character of our questions shapes the character of our lives. And so, by beginning with higher questions, and being prepared to ask these questions, we put ourselves in a significantly better foundational place for all of those subsequent factors that I’m going to speak about. So, backside line recap of this one, query all the things, particularly and beginning with the issues that you simply assume you’re 100% positive about.

Quantity two, breaking issues all the way down to first rules. This can be a idea borrowed from physics. And I’ll admit, I learn a whole lot of works associated to physics, books associated to physics. And I’ve a mind crush on Richard Feynman, who was an award successful physicist. I’ve at all times been fascinated by physics since I used to be little. And I really feel like there are such a lot of classes in physics that we are able to be taught from and apply to different areas of life. And first rules is an enormous one.

So if you happen to’re not conversant in this idea, the essential thought of first precept is a foundational, basically self-evident proposition or assumption, that can’t be deduced from every other proposition or assumption. So mainly, it’s probably the most fundamental constructing block that we all know to be true, that may’t be damaged down any additional.

So, in physics, clearly, we’re speaking about particles and issues that may be damaged all the way down to very small elements. However this is applicable to different areas of life as properly, with the concept that if we break all the things down to those first rules, and work from there, we’re typically going to reach at solely completely different assumptions and outcomes than after we function from techniques that exist already as in the event that they had been true. Typically I discover we will likely be in discussions with folks or…definitely this occurs on-line, or arguments that don’t are inclined to go anyplace. And on this case, I discover there’s typically a mismatch of understanding of first rules.

So as an illustration, when two individuals are hopefully discussing rationally and calmly, as an illustration, their place on issues like vaccines, they may have a mismatch in true first rules. And they also aren’t truly having the identical argument. They usually haven’t outlined a few of these core concepts of what does a vaccine truly do, as an illustration? What’s the mechanism of motion within the physique and the way a lot certainty do now we have that that mechanism of motion is being completed? As a result of typically, one particular person will likely be arguing from the place that there’s a security situation and it’s extraordinarily essential, working on the idea that vaccines are 100% environment friendly. Whereas one other particular person could also be arguing from a place of that they may not be and that there might be hazard, with the concept that vaccines could or will not be environment friendly, or efficient, however that there is also negative effects. So there’s a mismatch of core understanding in first rules, however the dialog is occurring properly above that. So no in all probability constructive dialog or studying from one another will be reached you probably have a mismatch in fundamental first rules.

I do know that’s a controversial instance, however one which I wished to carry as much as illustrate this. And this could even be true in our personal life. It doesn’t should be in dialog with another person. I discover that, as soon as once more, children are naturally nice on the thought of first rules. If you happen to ever speak to a two 12 months previous for any size of time, you already know tips on how to get issues to first rules. Mainly, you begin with any thought or assumption, and you then ask why, and you then ask why once more, and once more. And while you get to the purpose the place there’s no extra whys you possibly can reply, you’ve possible arrived on the potential first precept. So the concept of that is, break something down in life to first rules. Mainly dig deeper and deeper till you’re left with solely foundational truths of an thought or state of affairs.

René Descartes was a French thinker and a scientist, and he talked about this method, and a way that’s now known as, I imagine, Cartesian doubt, through which he would systematically doubt all the things he may presumably doubt till he was left with what he noticed as purely indeniable truths. So mainly boil issues down until they will’t be boiled down anymore. Or in layman’s phrases, that is mainly the observe of questioning all the things you assume you recognize, about any issues, state of affairs, perception, after which creating new information and options from scratch, working solely on these issues, these truths, and never situations, techniques, or assumptions which might be simply constructed on these. So, virtually like the concept of, once more, going again to a two 12 months previous or a new child, and assuming you recognize nothing. Beginning with solely the issues that you recognize for positive and constructing from there.

So, on the flip facet, and in distinction, lots of people, I believe, perhaps are listening to that and considering, “Nicely, I believe I in all probability already try this.” Most of us, I definitely did and nonetheless discover myself doing this at instances, are slipping into reasoning by analogy. And that is mainly constructing information and fixing issues primarily based on prior assumptions, or beliefs, or broadly held issues that most individuals imagine to be true. And there’s a motive for this. This was a part of survival for our species for a few years. If we, as an illustration, encountered a tiger, and we’d already encountered a tiger, we weren’t breaking it all the way down to first rules and making an attempt to query all the things about it. We had been working on the beliefs and assumptions that this was a harmful animal and we wanted to get away. So there’s a survival motive that it’s simpler to function by analogy than by first rules. We needs to be rather more cognizant.

However these large thinkers, I really feel like if you happen to can boil issues all the way down to first rules, it offers you a terrific place to begin to consider out of the field options. And with our youngsters, all it’s a must to do is get out of their method. They’re naturally going to do it. So strive to not prepare them out of the concept of this. And I believe probably the most generally used trendy instance of the concept of first precept considering proper now’s Elon Musk, who has accomplished this with Tesla and constructing batteries, as an illustration, as a result of that was one of many large hurdles with constructing electrical automobiles, from my understanding, is that batteries are very costly. So he broke that down and he stated, “Nicely, there’s…” To construct on the primary level. “There’s an assumption that batteries are costly. Is that really true? Does that should be true?” So the concept from level one among questioning all the things. After which he stated, “Nicely, let’s break batteries all the way down to their first rules. What are the core components which might be wanted, the core compounds that construct a battery? And is there a inexpensive technique to receive these issues? Is there a inexpensive technique to construct a battery?” And he has largely accomplished that.

The identical factor with SpaceX and with rockets. The concept that rockets are very costly. Is that really true? Have they got to be? What are the core elements of rockets? Can these be obtained much less expensively and constructed in another way? And that’s precisely what he’s accomplished. So he’s an clearly excessive instance. Most of us will not be possible constructing rockets in our each day lives, however the identical thought applies to techniques in your family, to interactions in what you are promoting, to issues like health and weight reduction, which, paradoxically, I attempted to assume in first rules for a lot of, a few years, earlier than I assumed to use it to well being and health, which was the realm I used to be writing a lot about.

So, in life, I really feel like first rules is a useful idea as a result of it stops us from simply constructing on assumptions and techniques that exist already, which suggests we’re solely making incremental enchancment or small percentages of enchancment. As an alternative, if we query issues all the way down to their core concepts after which rebuild solely from there, we are able to typically do that rather more effectively.

So as an illustration, I’ve talked about this earlier than, however an space the place I did this was with the concept of training and faculty for my children. So quite than…we had been debating if we had been going to homeschool or ship them to highschool and check out to determine what was the most suitable choice for them. As an alternative of assuming these two issues had been true, that they had been good choices, I attempted to return to first rules and actually boil issues down, by asking, what are the targets of grownup life? And why do children want to achieve these targets in in the present day’s world?

And as an illustration, there’s this pervasive script or analogy in society, that going to highschool, because it exists, and getting good grades results in success in life. And that really doesn’t get up while you break it all the way down to first rules. So what I did was say, what are the issues they really do must be profitable? Nicely, first, let’s outline success, after which work backwards from there. So in an unsure future, in a probably largely technological world, what do they must be profitable? Nicely, they want to have the ability to assume creatively, as a result of machines aren’t essentially doing that. They want to have the ability to assume critically, and so they want to have the ability to quickly purchase new abilities and assume outdoors the field. As a result of these are all issues that they possible should do in no matter future they find yourself with. So then asking, does the present mannequin of faculty assist accomplish these targets? And if not, working backwards to determine what does.

And what I noticed once I did this was that, the present techniques that had been obtainable when my oldest was 5, each the college system and homeschool curriculums on the time, didn’t actively put together kids for that future. And actually, did issues that had been in all probability largely counterproductive to that, by having them sit nonetheless, assume inside a field, be taught that there’s just one right reply to a take a look at, resolve math issues forwards as an alternative of backwards, have to point out their work in the way in which the instructor needs them to point out their work, quite than even being allowed to attempt to experiment with out of the field options. So in some ways, while you break it all the way down to first rules, training is not only not useful, it’s counterproductive, except we’re constructing from first rules. Getting good grades in a system that focuses on sitting nonetheless, and being obedient, and considering contained in the field, actually makes success in an grownup life, while you outline it, tougher not simpler. So, by boiling training all the way down to first rules, we had been in a position to construct a greater system that’s serving to our youngsters protect these core abilities of creativity, important considering, and so forth.

Similar factor with well being, we boil it all the way down to first rules, quite than assuming that the present concepts of well being are true. We regularly come to very completely different conclusions. And that’s what I did of, what if this isn’t true? What if consuming this manner is just not one of the simplest ways? Mainly questioning each assumption I had, as I discussed within the first level, breaking it all the way down to first rules, after which constructing from there. What are the constructing blocks which might be vital for well being? What issues truly do help the physique? And right here’s an space, once more, personalization, it’s going to be completely different for every of us. However there are in all probability some universally useful truths that can be utilized throughout the board. And a a lot simpler instance, the concept of meals, and that is used on-line to clarify the idea properly. However, like, the concept of cooks versus cooks. And you could possibly consider substances as sort of like the primary rules, the core constructing blocks that can be utilized in a whole lot of other ways.

A cook dinner might be considering extra of just like the analogy kind considering. Constructing on a recipe or one thing that’s already there, utilizing these first rules, and simply incremental enhancements. So, like, utilizing the recipe, a cook dinner would possibly execute higher than one other one to make an incremental enchancment, however they’re not revolutionizing the system by utilizing the substances, the primary rules, in a wholly novel method. Whereas a very good chef or a extremely educated chef is utilizing substances, first rules, differently. They’re utilizing them within the first precept mind-set, beginning with solely the substances, with out every other assumptions, with out recipes, and constructing distinctive and new mixtures and dishes, primarily based on simply the substances themselves. So slightly bit simplified there, however I discover that that one’s a useful one to grasp.

And from a enjoyable perspective, I really feel like I used to observe the present “MacGyver,” as a child. And he is an effective instance in a whole lot of his episodes of first rules considering, in a humorous method. He was well-known for utilizing frequent gadgets in new and modern methods. So mainly, the concept of first precept considering. He broke issues down, and as an alternative of assuming {that a} paperclip ought to solely be used to clip papers collectively, or {that a} wheel ought to solely be used on a motorcycle, he would put issues collectively in distinctive and new methods, and that at all times or typically received him out of powerful conditions. So he sort of used first precept considering with each day frequent gadgets, to create distinctive options. And that’s sort of the concept of first rules that we are able to apply throughout the board.

Quantity three, know the opposite facet of any perception or opinion higher than an opponent would possibly. And one other particular person I’ve a mind crush on is Charlie Munger. If you happen to’re not conversant in him, he’s Warren Buffett’s accomplice in Berkshire Hathaway. And you could possibly learn “Poor Charlie’s Almanack” to be taught much more about him. I’m an enormous fan of his work and have learn rather a lot by him and about him. And one among his quotes is, “I by no means enable myself to have an opinion on something that I don’t know the opposite facet’s argument higher than they do.” Once I first learn that, it actually struck me and it stayed with me to at the present time. I assumed it was actually profound. As a result of, to construct on the second level, many people, I used to be responsible of this for a really very long time too, attempt to discover issues that affirm our personal affirmation bias. We need to discover issues that affirm the issues we already know.

And so this concept of not simply being open to, however actively researching the other facet of a viewpoint, so that you’ve a stronger understanding of it than your opponent would possibly. It builds on the concept from the primary level I made about questioning all the things. However a part of that is the act of exploring the opposite facet. And I believe this may be actually useful, particularly proper now, when there are very robust beliefs on an entire lot of various points, and really excessive emotion on either side. So I stated, we function typically from a place of affirmation bias, looking for issues that affirm our current concepts. But when we construct on the concept of first rules, I discovered that questioning all the things after which researching in depth viewpoints opposite to ours, is admittedly, actually useful for a couple of causes.

So to begin with, we get the possibility to critically consider if our place is right to start with, or not. And if we’re right, then that’s nice. We’ve solely confirmed what we thought we knew, and we haven’t misplaced something. We’ve in all probability discovered one thing within the course of. If we’re incorrect, it’s useful to know in order that we are able to modify and function from a perspective of full information. And within the course of, we’re studying about and understanding different viewpoints, which results in extra understanding and empathy for individuals who would possibly maintain a special viewpoint than now we have. And I really feel like this results in rather more constructive conversations. And hopefully, typically, rather more degree headed conversations. And a few of the nice thinkers in historical past, I really feel like, had been superb at this and will argue the opposite facet’s perspective higher than their opponent. They might typically begin…in the event that they had been going to defend some extent, they might typically begin by completely explaining the choice viewpoint, after which breaking down the assumptions, level by level, with knowledge. However in doing this, I really feel prefer it offers perspective, it additionally takes a whole lot of the detrimental emotion out of this.

There’s a weblog known as Farnam Avenue and so they have a terrific weblog put up about this. It’s known as, “The Work Required to Have an Opinion.” And I believe, like I stated, in a world the place feelings run so excessive on so many matters, that we owe it to one another, within the title of human kindness, to discover different sides and find a way and prepared to speak with somebody who disagrees from a perspective of empathy, and calm, and understanding, versus simply everyone operating on such excessive emotion, and never truly getting anyplace aside from to be offended with one another.

So, some examples of this. I really feel like typically we are going to see very robust opinions and feelings in issues like dietary approaches. Whether or not it’s higher to be vegan, or keto, or carnivore. The reply is probably going someplace in the course of all of these issues for every of us that now we have to determine individually. But it surely’s very simple to learn issues that line up with your personal opinion, to verify your personal place, which I did for years. And it wasn’t till I assumed that I might be fallacious about all the things, that I discovered a few of the issues I used to be fallacious about and was in a position to right them, which led to me getting a lot more healthy. So this builds on the concept of questioning all the things and asking what if this may not be true. Or what if the other might be true? After which truly doing the due diligence and work to query and perceive. And like I discussed, I imagine within the second level, if there’s an space…no, the primary level, the place you discover inside resistance, or unwillingness to do that, it in all probability implies that there’s one thing to discover there, as a result of that’s a protecting mechanism.

So I believe areas the place this may be useful is anyplace that now we have a robust perception, whether or not it’s dietary, whether or not it’s faith, whether or not it’s vaccines, whether or not it’s viruses. I believe, particularly proper now, there’s nothing to be misplaced and probably very a lot to be gained from at the very least evaluating different viewpoints. Once more, this can be a level that’s simple to say and tough to do. However I simply love this concept, from Charlie Munger, of not permitting myself to have an opinion except I do know the opposite facet’s argument higher than they do. And I attempt to maintain myself to that. It’s a tough one and I’ve to remind myself typically to be prepared to do this. As a result of I believe it’s human nature additionally to double down and attempt to affirm one’s viewpoint. So, I believe studying to assume critically and contemplate different viewpoints is a talent now we have to domesticate.

Quantity 4, the concept of inversion or considering backwards and never ahead. That is one that’s prevalent in science, comes largely from math. And it goes by many various names from many various folks. Tim Ferriss calls this worry setting, Ryan Vacation talks about this. It has different names as properly. The fundamental thought is to not simply assume ahead to love, how do I get what I would like within the optimistic, but in addition to assume backward of how do I not get what I don’t need. With the concept that it’s simpler to keep away from the dangerous generally than to determine and work in direction of a tangible purpose, or the concept of studying from the other.

In order examples, I, for a very long time, was making an attempt to get better from an autoimmune illness. So I may ask, considering ahead, how can I get better from this autoimmune illness? And there can be useful knowledge and analysis in that. I may additionally invert, assume backwards and ask, to determine issues, how can I get an autoimmune illness? As a result of I’m going to determine a few of the issues I’m going to need to not do, to not get an autoimmune illness. So if I wished to get an autoimmune illness, I didn’t need to, however I found out tips on how to do it, which was to be very careworn, eat horrible meals, and don’t sleep. And that was mainly my faculty expertise. And that led to autoimmune illness. So, from that, I can then deduce that to not get autoimmune illness, it is perhaps useful to strive to not be careworn, to cope with stress, to not eat horrible meals or to eat meals that helps the physique, and to get sufficient sleep, versus not getting sufficient sleep.

So mainly, you determine what you’d should keep away from, or what creates the issue you don’t need, and also you do the other. This manner, you’re not simply specializing in success, however you’re additionally avoiding failure. One instance that may be very related to mothers that I can consider, on this, of the concept of inversion, comes from Marie Kondo. And also you’ve in all probability heard of her. She had the wildly fashionable e-book, “The Life-Altering Magic of Tidying Up,” which led to large adjustments for many individuals. I noticed many individuals in my life observe her system and do away with an entire lot of stuff of their home. However she used this concept of inversion, in all probability knowingly, as a result of she’s actually sensible. However she had folks, as an alternative of asking, what ought to I do away with? She didn’t have them ask that as a result of that brings up all this emotion, after which you’re connected to issues, and it’s exhausting to determine the belongings you need to do away with. As an alternative, she inverted. She advised folks to judge solely which of these items do I need to hold, versus what do I need to do away with. And that’s a neater factor emotionally to work by way of. And it makes it look solely completely different as an issue. So, to do that, asking issues like, what if the other was true? What if I centered on a special facet of this case? So as an alternative of asking tips on how to do one thing, ask how to not do it, after which be taught from the inverse.

One other author I actually like is Nassim Taleb. And he says, “What you don’t know is commonly extra essential than what you recognize.” And I discover that utilizing inversion, you possibly can assist determine a few of these holes and issues that you simply don’t know. And you may keep away from issues that you simply don’t need. To carry again Charlie Munger once more. I’m, once more, an enormous fan of him. He has spoken to this many instances in several quotes. That inversion helps you keep away from errors and keep away from failure, which regularly is extra essential to success than simply specializing in success. And Naval Ravikant, who’s one other particular person I love rather a lot, talks about this type of similar idea as properly. However Charlie Munger stated…he stated, “It’s outstanding how a lot long run benefit folks like us have gotten by making an attempt persistently to be not silly as an alternative of making an attempt to be very clever.” He additionally stated, “It’s not sufficient to consider issues a technique. It is advisable take into consideration them forwards and backwards.” So that concept of inversion. Naval stated a lot of the identical factor, Naval Ravikant, who I’ll hyperlink to, some sources from him. I’m going to speak about him extra in a short while, however he has influenced my considering and enterprise fairly a bit. And he talks about this as properly, as a technique to assume by way of life selections.

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Quantity 5, the concept of compounding. You typically, in all probability, are conversant in this time period, by way of the concept of compound curiosity, which I’ll see if I can clarify in slightly bit excessive degree, simply as a way to perceive it, how I’m going to use it to different areas of life. So, compound curiosity is the addition of curiosity to the principal sum of a mortgage or deposit. So in different phrases, it’s curiosity on curiosity. And it’s the results of reinvesting the curiosity quite than paying it out, in order that the curiosity, the following time, is earned on the principal plus the curiosity, the beforehand amassed curiosity. And it results in the next progress curve. Or the concept that, like, progress results in extra progress.

So this can be a time period utilized in cash. However I believe it’s actually related. And Naval has talked about this in lots of different areas of life as properly, not simply with cash. And so I believe you should use compounding in terms of relationships, and abilities, and time. Albert Einstein stated that compound curiosity is the eighth marvel of the world. He who understands it earns it, and he who doesn’t pays it. However that is true, I imagine, with time, and abilities, and relationships as properly. So some areas that I like to consider compounding each day, not simply with cash, are issues like studying and information. And that is one other recurring space that you simply’ll hear folks like Charlie Munger discuss. Warren Buffett talks about this. Quite a lot of the actually excessive attaining people who find themselves large thinkers spend a whole lot of time studying, generally writing, however buying information in virtually what looks as if a disproportionate period of time.

In different phrases, many of those folks will learn for hours and hours a day. People who find themselves operating big firms, who you’ll assume can be probably the most busy and have the least time to learn. They perceive the good thing about compounding information. They usually spend hours per day buying information, figuring out that information plus extra information, the compounding impact, you’re in a position to make use of extra effectively. In order that they spend time studying each day. Similar factor with the concept of abilities. The extra we observe a talent, the simpler it will get to maintain getting higher at that very same talent. Additionally, constructing on abilities that may assist one another. I’ve accomplished this with the enterprise, of considering how may I begin with fundamental constructing blocks that I had, or abilities that I may be taught, after which construct into different areas that may assist me attain folks differently or construct issues that method. So, like, issues like podcasting. Talking helped me get higher at podcasting. Writing weblog posts helped me get higher at writing, which helped me write books. We will construct on abilities and get higher at them over time.

Similar factor with writing. And, like, I discover that the extra I write, the extra I write. So writing each day, making {that a} observe, makes it simpler to put in writing each day. Similar factor with health. We see compounding in health, and we don’t essentially assume to name it this. However as you…I’m discovering this now, as you’re employed out and get extra honed in, and as you get stronger, your physique is extra environment friendly at relaxation. And exercises, whereas they might by no means really feel simple while you’re doing them since you need to hold difficult your self, you get extra environment friendly on the exercises themselves, and the profit turns into larger from the identical or much less quantity of precise health.

And a trick that I take advantage of, that I’ll point out slightly bit extra within the final level intimately. However I take advantage of one thing known as the Feynman Approach. So once more, mentioning Richard Feynman. However I discover that this helps me in compounding as a result of it locks in information, and concepts, and abilities. And the idea briefly, is that, you don’t actually know or perceive one thing till you possibly can train it to a toddler. And fortunately, I’ve many kids that I’m educating each day. So I truly get to implement this in observe.

However the thought being that anytime I discovered one thing new, each time I learn a e-book, I attempt to summarize that factor in a concise, simple to grasp lesson, and easy language, and train it to one among my children. After which get them to clarify it again to me, which then confirms that I used to be in a position to clarify it to them in a simple to grasp method. And that’s been actually useful for me in with the ability to compound on that information and on these abilities. And like I stated, I’ll speak extra about that within the remaining level. However I wished to say it right here as properly.

Quantity six. This one is massively useful from a psychological well being and stress perspective. And it’s the concept of, deal with solely what you possibly can management. And that is talked about in all the things from the stoics to modern-day stoic writers like Ryan Vacation. That is introduced up in various kinds of non secular texts throughout the board. However simply the concept of, we’re a lot much less careworn after we deal with what we are able to management. One among my favourite writers who mentions that is Viktor Frankl, in his e-book, “Man’s Seek for Which means,” that I reread yearly firstly of the 12 months. And in addition, it’s talked about in numerous methods all through many, many sorts of writing. However the core idea, excessive degree to grasp is, the issues that we are able to management are basically simply our personal feelings, actions, and responses. And what we can’t management is all the things else. And after we spend psychological vitality and time actually solely centered on our personal skills, and actions, and responses, and issues that now we have direct affect over, and we let go of attachment, or have to attempt to management issues we are able to’t management, like different folks’s actions, or how different folks really feel about us, or world occasions outdoors of our management. We profit as a result of we’re letting go of stress over an basically insolvable impractical equation, as a result of we are able to’t have an effect on the result.

And I really feel like there’s a whole lot of issues that construct into this, however the core idea really is so simple as that. Once more, easy however not simple. It’s exhausting to learn to let go of these issues. However to the diploma that we’re in a position to do this, I really feel like I’ve discovered freedom and happiness in that. Some issues that this has additionally helped me, there’s an idea of Hanlon’s razor, which is mainly that it is best to by no means attribute to malice that which may simply be attributed largely to carelessness, or…mainly, yeah, simply to circumstance or carelessness. And I really feel like after we deal with solely what we are able to management, now we have much less want to attempt to perceive different folks’s motivations or right them on these items. And infrequently, issues that we’d interpret as one thing that was accomplished with malice, was really simply accomplished by accident or with out thought in any respect. And we are able to let that go.

I discover additionally once I deal with solely the issues inside my very own management, it permits me to be extra variety, which is one other core precept of my life generally. And I simply sort of put it beneath right here. However the thought of at all times be extra variety. When unsure, at all times select to be extra variety. I’ve but to seek out conditions in my life the place I regretted being variety. And I can definitely consider many the place I regretted not being variety. And focusing by myself feelings, and responses, and actions, typically much less, that’d be a a lot simpler course of to be variety. As talked about already, I discussed the e-book, “The 4 Agreements.” And this is without doubt one of the 4 agreements, is to not take something personally. As a result of the issues different folks do typically don’t have anything to do with us in any respect to start with. However we are able to’t management them anyway. Or as previous podcast visitor, Lauryn Bosstick stated, she stated, “Different folks’s opinion of me is none of my enterprise.” It’s additionally firmly out of our management. So after we can let go of that, or the attachment to figuring out another person’s opinion, or caring about another person’s opinion, we’re in a position to make use of that point and vitality to deal with issues that we are able to truly have an effect on the result of, which is a place of rather more freedom, and far much less stress, at the very least from what I discovered.

So, I take advantage of this to investigate when one thing pops up in life, or particularly if it’s one thing inflicting me stress, is to investigate what variables on this circumstance or state of affairs, do I even have the flexibility to regulate. And if it’s not a kind of issues, letting go of it, quite than pouring time and vitality, which we talked about are probably the most beneficial sources, into an equation as a variable that’s not solvable, to start with.

Quantity seven. My children hear me say this on a regular basis and it’s in our home. I’m constructing a tradition wall and that is on it. The idea that happiness is a alternative and a talent. And there’s a thousand quotes associated to this. However that is one thing that I’ve discovered, in some ways, over the past decade. And it pertains to this concept of what now we have the flexibility to regulate. And our personal happiness is a kind of issues as a result of it’s a alternative. But it surely’s additionally one thing that now we have to domesticate. I discover that the concept of compounding, which we already talked about, applies right here, too. As a result of after we arrange habits, and actions, and practices that result in happiness, they have an inclination to do this increasingly more over time. The concept of inversion also can assist determine what these items are.

So, like, Naval Ravikant, who I discussed, he defines happiness as a relaxed thoughts, a match physique, and a contented dwelling. And I believe there are features of that, which might be present in many individuals’s definition of happiness. However a part of reaching that is sort of figuring out the place we’re going, but in addition figuring out the actions, or eradicating the actions that don’t result in happiness, or figuring out those that do. And inversion will help right here too. So by asking, how can I be sad? Nicely, I may sleep much less. I may struggle with people who I’m near in my life. I may eat meals that makes me grumpy. Then you definitely do the other of these issues. So perhaps by having good relationships, and getting sufficient sleep, and consuming nutritious meals that’s scrumptious, I might be extra glad. You may construct on that.

I believe one other side I discovered of happiness is the fixed reminder to attempt to be current and to construct from place of presence. It’s a lot simpler, I discovered, to be glad while you’re within the current second than when you find yourself future or previous centered, except you’re actively planning for one thing sooner or later, as a result of these are areas which might be outdoors of our management and areas that are typically anxiousness producing. So to the diploma potential, cultivating happiness by being current and specializing in and compounding the actions that relate to happiness for every of us, which goes to be completely different. I discussed at first about time and vitality being our most essential property. And I believe this can be a actually essential a part of the happiness equation. As a result of after we deplete both of these issues, we’re usually not as glad. And if we discover a technique to focus these issues successfully, even when there are nonetheless difficulties or struggles, it tends to result in extra happiness. I’m going to place a hyperlink to Naval Ravikant, I discussed. He has a e-book known as “The Almanack” that’s out. It’s primarily based on his work. He didn’t write it, nevertheless it’s primarily based on his work, and it’s obtainable at no cost on-line, in PDF. You may as well purchase the common e-book.

However he has a terrific quote that, “Need is a contract you make with your self to be sad till you get what you need.” So, conversely, you possibly can simply select happiness by being current now. It nonetheless would possibly imply you’re employed towards issues. The truth is, it in all probability will. However not being connected to the will for these issues to occur. And I believe it was perhaps Mark Manson who stated it too, that the will for extra optimistic expertise is in itself a detrimental expertise. And paradoxically, the acceptance of a detrimental expertise is in and of itself a optimistic expertise. It’s sort of just like the paradox of happiness. And an idea I like additionally from Mark Manson is, as an alternative of asking what makes me glad and specializing in that, this type of ties in slightly bit to the concept of inversion. So we’re considerably adjoining. However asking what discomfort or ache am I prepared to have in my life. As a result of this helps us determine and work in direction of areas which might be going to result in happiness.

So, as an illustration, if I’m prepared to have the discomfort of intense exercises, that may result in a more healthy physique, which bodily makes me happier. Most likely, I’ve higher neurotransmitters that method, however I additionally would possibly really feel happier by having that wholesome physique. I is perhaps prepared to have the discomfort of working extra hours, or working a facet enterprise at evening for a couple of hours, which isn’t essentially in and of itself a cushty glad expertise. However that results in serving to construct a enterprise, or to extra monetary safety, which will be one thing that pertains to happiness. Personally, previously, I’ve typically chosen the ache…or not ache, however discomfort of fasting and never having meals for a sure variety of days, which led to organic issues like autophagy and mobile adjustments, and to raised well being over time. So, I like this idea of selecting our discomfort. What ache or discomfort am I prepared to have in my life for these targets of happiness? Naval stated that, “A rational particular person can discover peace by cultivating indifference to issues outdoors their management.” In order that ties that into the earlier level as properly, however discovering peace and happiness by specializing in being current and specializing in the issues inside our sphere of management, and letting go of the issues that we are able to’t.

After which the final level I’m going to speak about in the present day, which is, for me, an enormous key in happiness, but in addition one among my guidelines for all times. And one which governs many, a lot of my actions is the main focus of cultivating curiosity and at all times studying. And that is accomplished in several methods for me, and it’s slightly bit simple to do as a result of I’m a homeschooling mother as properly. I’m very grateful for that. However that is the place I derive a whole lot of my psychological stimulation and happiness. And I believe it’s going to look completely different for everyone, simply as all of those will. However I’ve discovered this for me may be very a lot a key to feeling fulfilled and to happiness. And there’s numerous ways in which I do that tangibly. Overarchingly, it’s so simple as, I discover at all times having some sort of purpose or problem to be working towards, and at all times having a brand new subject of dialog or subject of data to be taught.

So for example, for my children, they’ve, at school, a factor that they deal with every day, it’s not likely a topic, we don’t do these. But it surely’s known as matters, the place they analysis, it might be something they’re all in favour of in any respect. After which they should both write a brief paragraph about it or clarify it to me or to a sibling, in a method that the opposite particular person can then clarify it again. That may sound acquainted as a result of that’s the Feynman Approach that I discussed briefly. However I additionally, myself, despite the fact that I’m not at school, I’m simply educating my children, I attempt to discover methods to make use of the Feynman Approach each day. So for my children, they do that of their college matters. I strive to do that as properly. And I’ve a number of ways in which I do it. However the idea is slightly bit extra element, of the Feynman Approach, is that while you perceive one thing, you possibly can clarify it to a toddler concisely, in easy language, and in a method they perceive. And this may be accomplished in numerous methods.

And Einstein had a quote about this as properly. I’m going to paraphrase, however one thing alongside the strains of the concept that you don’t really perceive one thing till you possibly can clarify it to both…it was both a six 12 months previous or a sixth grader. However they each talked about this. And I discovered this extraordinarily useful in studying, each for myself and for my children in homeschooling and for retention. So what I do, myself, for this, is I’ve each digital and bodily notebooks. So I’ve apps that I take advantage of for this, if I’m doing it digitally. Or I’ve leather-based certain notebooks that I like to put in writing in once I’m doing this by hand. And I’ll analysis a brand new idea, a subject, it might be actually something. I’d learn a e-book, so each e-book I learn, I do that Feynman Approach after. And after researching or studying and making an attempt to grasp in one of the simplest ways potential, I then spend a few minutes telling my children, or my husband, or a buddy, about it, after which seeing in the event that they perceive it again.

And if I’m not speaking to a different particular person or I don’t have entry to that, I can even simply write, or draw, or illustrate on one web page of a pocket book or digitally, the important thing ideas. And the benefit right here, you would possibly know, by educating one thing, you keep it higher your self and also you cement the information, nevertheless it additionally helps you perceive it higher. And I discover it actually drastically will increase my recall. So if I learn an entire lot about sulforaphane, or mitochondrial well being, or NAD, or no matter, I’ll Feynman Approach that and see if I can clarify it to my seven 12 months previous, and if she will clarify it again. After which I, by default, perceive it higher. Once I learn a e-book and my focus is, okay, I’m going to attempt to clarify the core message of this e-book in a single web page or much less, or in 5 minutes or much less to my little one, I learn with a special lens, and I discover I retain significantly better.

If you happen to’re not a author otherwise you don’t get pleasure from illustrating, one other method you are able to do that is to make use of the app Otter, O-T-T-E-R, or a voice textual content to create and hold notes by simply talking them. Or if you happen to’re going to truly clarify it to a toddler, simply use Otter to transcribe it after which you might have it written as properly. So anytime you need to return and have a reminder of that subject, you might have it in a single place due to this. And so, like I stated, I do that with books and ideas, the concept, train it to another person. If they will clarify it again to you, you then perceive it and you’ve got succeeded in passing it on.

TED Talks are additionally a terrific coaching device for this with children. And I’ve talked about earlier than that we regularly begin our days with watching a couple of TED Talks. There’s numerous causes for this. However one, I discover that kids are pure sample recognizers. So while you give them information on a number of unrelated matters, they’re nonetheless going to search for patterns, which will be actually useful and assist them assume outdoors the field, which is a kind of core values. Typically in TED Talks, individuals are very, very educated about their discipline. They usually’re making an attempt to speak some concepts of first rules by breaking issues all the way down to an idea that folks can perceive. In essence, they’re additionally considerably Feynman techniquing themselves, as a result of they’re making an attempt to move on their physique of data in a brief period of time, to an viewers, who will then hopefully perceive and share it. So after we watch these TED Talks, we both verbally or in writing, speak by way of and clarify these ideas, which helps all of us retain them, and offers us a whole lot of actually enjoyable matters for dialog.

One other factor that, to me, ties into this concept of at all times studying, I discussed this at first, I very firmly imagine, that’s one thing I ought to in all probability problem, however I very firmly imagine that you could be taught one thing from each interplay, or expertise, or useful resource. And so I attempt to method each interplay with an individual, or each new e-book, or any state of affairs I discover myself in from that perspective of with the ability to be taught one thing. And I discover that once I try this, I’ve a completely completely different expertise of interplay. And I virtually at all times discover that to be true, that I discovered one thing fascinating. Typically what we be taught perhaps a method we don’t need to do one thing, it is perhaps we’re studying by inversion of how to not do issues. However the mindset of studying one thing from all the things that you simply learn, or do, or each particular person that you simply meet, I discover very useful. And that’s very a lot a core perception for me. I imagine that we are able to be taught one thing from all the things, however we in all probability shouldn’t be taught all the things from any single factor. And that ties again into what I discussed firstly about, like, being uncovered to a variety of viewpoints and never assuming that we are able to be taught all the things a few subject from any of these, however that we are able to be taught one thing from all of these.

Many individuals I respect have some model of the concept that we should always go to mattress smarter than after we wakened. Everybody I’ve truly talked about on this podcast has a quote to that impact. Naval says that, Charlie Munger has stated that, Richard Feynman has a number of quotes associated to studying each day. However that’s the factor I take into consideration typically and inform my children each day, is to at all times go to mattress slightly bit smarter than while you wakened. For that reason, at our home, books are a line merchandise in our price range. And that’s one space the place I’m at all times prepared to spend cash if children ask for books. Now we have Kindles, we even have many, many print books. And as I do that podcast, and I ask for e-book suggestions, I hold an Amazon cart simply of books that I’m always including to. And about as soon as a month, I order an entire new record of books. They usually are available in and I’ll attempt to get by way of these books that month after which Feynman Approach them and move them on to my children.

Additionally, with books, I don’t are inclined to hold them. So one other core factor with books for me is, if it’s an excellent e-book, then I at all times, like, underline it and I make some notes. I Feynman Approach on the final web page of the e-book, after which I give the e-book to another person to learn. And I hope that once I move these on, folks will try this as properly. However I really feel like information is an unimaginable present. And it’s one which I actually get pleasure from giving to different folks. So I at all times attempt to move books on. I don’t typically reread them, as a result of I do the Feynman Approach, however I like passing them on for different folks to learn. And if I do ever have to reread it, I’ll simply get the e-book once more and do it once more.

However to the concept of Charlie Munger, Warren Buffett, all these guys that learn, having time each day for studying and for studying. And that’s one other one of many causes I’m so grateful for this group, is that now, actually, it’s my job. I get to speak to you guys, speak to folks on the podcast, and be taught always from folks, and have my viewpoints challenged, and have publicity to new matters, after which get to move these issues on. So I don’t take that flippantly.

Like I stated at first, I’m so, so, so grateful for you and for this group, for you spending your time right here in the present day. I hope that perhaps a few of these ideas have been useful to you. Most likely a whole lot of them are belongings you’d already thought-about or do in sure methods. For me, it was useful to place them extra concretely into outlined psychological fashions or guidelines for all times, in order that I may function from them, and be extra concrete with them. And I’d like to, within the present notes, hear from you, about any techniques, or psychological fashions, or guidelines for all times that you’ve and that you simply function from. Or if any of these items had been new concepts to you or challenged any concepts that you simply had, I’d love to listen to about these issues from you within the present notes. So, please attain out on social or depart me a be aware at wellnessmama.fm. Additionally at all times let me know any future visitors you wish to hear from within the subsequent 100 episodes, within the present notes at wellnessmama.fm.

I can even hyperlink to a whole lot of these books that I’ve talked about, different books by people who I discussed on this episode, and another sources associated to those issues. As I stated, it’s a deviation from the purely simply bodily well being facet of issues, however I really feel like these are rules and concepts which have actually made my life much less traumatic and extra glad. And I hope that one thing, once more, you possibly can be taught one thing from all the things, that you simply’re in a position to pull any small a part of this that may be useful to your life indirectly. And I hope that you’ll share a few of yours with me in order that I can do the identical.

However as at all times, like I stated at first and I’ll say it once more, thanks for sharing your most precious sources, your time and your vitality, with me in the present day. I’m so grateful that you simply did. It’s at all times a pleasure to spend time with you. And I hope that you’ll be part of me on the following 100 episodes of the Wellness Mama Podcast.

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